“She silently stepped out of the race she never wanted to be in, found her own lane, and proceeded to win.” ~Unknown
Picture this…you are driving down the road and the flow of traffic slows in front of you. You see a clear lane with traffic moving faster in the lane next to you, so you jump in the “fast lane” and cruise on down the road. Until the flow of traffic changes and now you’re stuck in traffic. That car that you passed a while back is now passing you in the “slow lane” that you were once in. We’ve all been there. And if you’re like me, you get frustrated, impatient, and annoyed. I want something I can’t have…a clear, open, fast road.
This happens in life as well. We see what others are doing in their lane and want what they have (or what we think they have). We feel stuck in our lane, so we change lanes thinking things look better in their lane, so they will be better. We think their lane will be more clear and will allow us to move faster so we can get to our destination sooner. The problem is, we don’t have all of the details. We don’t know why they are really in their lane. We don’t have the insight from their past to know why they picked this lane and we can’t see what is up ahead. After spending some time in their lane, we eventually realize that this lane really isn’t the best lane for us and is not where we want to be after all.
We all know that we shouldn’t drive our car with blinders on and swerve in and out of traffic while speeding down the road. Driving erratically can cause accidents. Likewise, we shouldn’t experience life with blinders on or swerve in and out of “traffic” while speeding through life. Sure, it is good to look around, see what others are doing, experience new things, but it is even more important to stay true to yourself, stay in your own lane, slow down, and remember why you were there in the first place. This is your journey!
For the majority of 2019 I’ve been “driving” all over the road. One minute I find myself in my lane, and the next I’m in someone else’s lane. I’ve been swerving back and forth. This erratic “driving” has got to stop! There is a far greater risk associated with erratic driving. It isn’t safe! It does not make me happy! It does not allow me to be true to myself! It stresses me out! It fuels my anxiety and depression! Being in someone else’s lane has reminded me that I’m happiest and safest in my own lane. So it’s time to take control of the steering wheel and get back in my own lane. This is where I belong. This is where I will remain true to myself. This is where I will be happiest. This is where I intend to stay. Will I get distracted by the “fast lane” that others are in from time to time?! Probably. I’m human. But I’m going to do my best to stay in my own lane, slow down, and remember why I chose to be there in the first place. This is my journey! I will get to my destination exactly when I am supposed to if I stay in my own lane.